When we listen to someone complain, even when its ourselves doing it, has never done any good for anybody.
Some say its a catharsis, a way to let go of burdensome emotions and experiences, and while letting it out may seem to feel good, but when you take a close look into complaining and what it does to the brain will give us more of a cause to strive for a peaceful state of mind and eliminate complaining.
“Synapses That Fire Together, Wire Together”
The brain is a complex organ that works with consciousness to formulate the personality of a human being, always re-creating, learning and re-generating itself. Science is now becoming more understanding in how the brain works and how it interprets and creates reality.
Steven Parton, computer scientist, author and philosopher, has researched the ways in how negative emotions in the form of complaining, expressed by both self and experiences from others, do affect the brain and body, coming up with quite a number of observations that help to determine how people can’t get out of a negative mood. Parton’s theory explains that complaining and negativity can physically alter our structure and function within the mind and body.
“Synapses that fire together wire together,” says Parton, which is a precise way to understand the function of neuroplasticity, the science of how the brain works to re-wire itself based on its exposure to repetitive elements. Complaining and negativity gives out the same results as Parton’s theory points out.
He explains: “The principle is simple: Throughout your brain there is a collection of synapses separated by empty space called the synaptic cleft. Whenever you have a thought, one synapse shoots a chemical across the cleft to another synapse, thus building a bridge over which an electric signal can cross, carrying along its charge the relevant information you’re thinking about.…Every time this electrical charge is triggered, the synapses grow closer together in order to decrease the distance the electrical charge has to cross….
The brain is rewiring its own circuitry, physically changing itself, to make it easier and more likely that the proper synapses will share the chemical link and thus spark together–in essence, making it easier for the thought to trigger.”
Parton’s understanding of the process includes the idea that the electrical connections used by the brain will shorten, and more frequently chosen for utilization by the brain. This is how a person’s personality is altered. As conscious beings, we have the whole power to affect this process, by being cognitive of how duality is at work in our thoughts. We have the sole power in generating thoughts from our consciousness of love over fear, ensuring that our brain and personality is positively changed.
Empathy and the Mob Effect
There is more to this than the effect that complaining has on ourselves. The line of scientific reasoning further extends the dynamics between two people, giving scientific understanding of how one’s complaining can actually bring others down. Mirror-neurons ensure that we do learn from our environment, and are an essential bio-chemical element of empathy. The brain relates essentially to others expressions, and our empathic portion of ourselves responds by ‘trying on’ this emotion as an attempt to relate and understand outside drama.
When a person drops a huge load of negativity, drama and gossip onto you, you will be sure that it affects you bio-chemically, and decreases your chance of being happy. When your exposed to this emotional outburst, it can cause stress, and stress kills. When you complain and be negative, it is contributing to your early death.
Parton refers to the outlook as ‘the science of happiness,’ and an example in the behavior of complaining does make a fitting case study for a connection between the power of thought and the amount of control a person can exert on the creation of our shared, three-dimensional reality.
The view of this is even further, rather precisely, by Parton:“…if you’re always complaining and belittling your own power in reality, you will not think you have the power to change it. And thus it will never change.”
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